Being silly, I placed my hand like this over the glass and quoted Hamlet by Shakespeare. In the gravedigger scene, Prince Hamlet picks up a random skull and says “alas , poor Yorick. I knew him well”
This is my sense of silly humor when I am not under the weight of anxiety.
I went to a local museum with one of my daughters. Just the two of us for a Mommy / Daughter Day. I like to that once in a while.
Let’s talk about silliness. We all need to be silly and humorous sometimes. It has an amazing therapeutic effect on us. It is very difficult to access that side of our personalities when we are being drowned by the weight of our own thoughts. The simple pleasures that other people enjoy are no longer accessible to us, when we are being tormented by our poor brains.
If we can find a way to be able to be silly, funny, whimsical and to laugh, it would be of a great to help with the anxieties we all have.
Personally, I find that I have to feel safe and not threatened in order to access my funny side.
The perception of threat can come from an immediately threatening situation, an impending threat, or a perception of threat which is triggered by something and then interpreted in our mind as an unsafe situation.
In order to experience the healing of humor, we need to be in a situation that is unlikely to trigger any feelings of threat.
A threat can be a perception of imminent danger to our person. Another type of threat would be a financial threat which in our minds would ultimately lead to loss of our shelter and safe haven.
There are other kinds of threats. Different people have fears in different areas. A threat of humiliation and loss of respect is common. This type of threat could have a domino effect. In our mind, it would start with a loss of our reputation, disrespect, and then an inability to get what we need from others.
For people with severe anxiety disorder, the threat of being triggered into fear and mental torment is a very frightening thing. The attacks of post traumatic stress are so frightening that sufferers try their best to avoid being triggered.
Winston Churchill , in 1940, said the famous quote,
“There is nothing to fear, but fear itself”
The fear of “fear itself” is very real for people with severe anxiety disorders. Therefore, there is actually something to fear for us. Fear is real to us. The fear we have is that something will trigger an attack of our brain against our nervous system.
The brain is directly linked to our nervous system, which runs through our entire body. Once the nervous system is on high alert of threat, the physical discomfort can be unbearable. This is why we do all we can do to avoid this. I have PTSD and I am always aware that I need to protect my brain from triggers. It takes a lot of mental energy just to continually scan for threats to my brain function.
I personally find that I feel less likely to be triggered if I am in a neutral place. This is not true for everyone. You have to learn where your “safe places” are.
I feel more like myself, at a place like this museum, where no one knows me. I can re-create myself and be whoever I want to be.
If you can find your “safe place”, then you can find yourself again. You may be able to relax and laugh at things again. Your sense of humor and ability to find pleasure in the little things is still there. It is under the tremendous weight of anxiety and / or depression. Believe in yourself. I believe in you ! Laughter really is good medicine for mental healing.
Blessings to all 🙂
I would like to really thank Annie from over at gentlekindness’s blog for being kind enough to send this guest post to us for publication on this site. I know that I really enjoyed reading it and hope that it will benefit and bless a lot of our members.
The idea of ‘guest posts’ is one which I actively encourage and you can find out how to go about submitting such an article/post by visiting our Submissions page
Kind regards and God bless you and thank you once again, to Annie.